Even those of us who aren’t super into kink will likely want to spice things up in the bedroom from time to time.
According to research conducted by bathroom retailers Showerstoyou.co.uk (for what we can only assume was a very good reason), 84% of 2,381 adults surveyed said they tried BDSM – aka Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Masochism.
This could well be a good thing since a study last year showed that people who are into BDSM have better sex lives.
While 84% might sound like a high number, the survey is a relatively small one that likely doesn’t represent the whole population and on top of that, a lot comes under the umbrella term BDSM.
Technically BDSM can range from using blindfolds and fluffy handcuffs to whips, riding-crops and many, many things in between, so there’s a lot from that world for us to choose.
If you want to dip a toe into this type of kink, former dominatrix Miranda Kane previously said the key phrase to remember is ‘safe, sane and consensual’, writing: ‘Don’t run before you can walk.’
Before you start, she recommended that you and your partner agree on a safe word – a word or action that means ‘stop’ – that you both stay sober, and that you talk through exactly what your boundaries are.
When it comes to sexual accoutrements, she wrote: ‘You don’t need a dungeon. You don’t need props, costume, or lighting. You just need confidence, communication and a bit of imagination.’
Outside of BDSM, according to the study, 72% tried sex outdoors, and 69% have tried threesomes.
One seemingly less popular option is golden showers – aka one partner peeing on the other – which has been tried by 28% of those surveyed.
At 24%, less than a quarter of responders had tried pegging – which is when someone who doesn’t have a penis performs anal sex on someone who does.
So now you know.
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source https://metro.co.uk/2020/09/16/have-you-tried-bdsm-study-shows-over-80-per-cent-have-13278596/
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