Gabrielle Reese was 18 and decided she was ready to lose her virginity.
She had met someone online and after chatting for three months, she wanted to meet up.
But it wasn’t just one person she had fallen for – Gabrielle had been chatting to Jacob Boswell, now 45, and his girlfriend Megan Muirhead, now 45.
She met them through a sugar daddy website and now she was preparing to fly 500 miles to meet them – and start a sexual relationship with them both.
But three years on, all of them are happily together as a polyamorous throuple.
Recalling their first encounter, Gabrielle, now 21, explained: ‘The whole thing was exciting and new. We all clicked very fast and there was a lot of chemistry – we were all involved that first night.
‘There were positives. Jacob and Megan are both older, while I had no experience.
‘Losing my virginity to a guy and a girl, being bisexual, I got to experience all aspects of my sexuality, too. Girls are soft, delicate and nurturing, while men are more dominant.
‘I’d never thought that much about how I would lose my virginity, but I guess it wasn’t what I predicted. I don’t have any regrets though.’
Gabrielle says she had always fancied older guys and she didn’t have any romantic relationships with guys her age as a teenager.
So, after turning 18, she joined a sugar daddy website, matching younger women with older men and, in October 2016, found software developers Jacob and Megan – deciding to fly out and meet them a few days before her 19th birthday.
She told her parents data analyst Don, 46, who is only a year older than Jacob, and sales associate Kathea, 44 – but they weren’t happy with her decision.
She said: ‘I was very, very honest.
‘Growing up, I’d warned my parents I wanted to marry someone their age, but I think they thought I was joking.
‘I’ve always known I liked older guys – and girls too – so when I saw on Jacob’s website profile that he had a girlfriend, too, he checked all the boxes.
‘But I told my parents I was flying from Idaho to Utah for a first date with a couple I’d only Facetimed once before, so I do understand why they were concerned.’
With Megan at work when she arrived, she spent the day with Jacob before meeting her that evening.
When she arrived in Utah after her hour-long flight, Gabrielle spent the first day with Jacob, moving on to become a “throuple” that night and the following day.
She said: ‘Jacob and I went to their house and hung out, watching TV and got dinner.
‘It was all very normal and that’s what we did when Megan finished work too.
‘After spending our first night together Megan told me she loved me and she wanted me to move in – I was like, “Who knows?”
‘That first night I lost my virginity. I was nervous about the whole experience – but in a good way. The nerves were worth it.
‘I knew that I wanted to do it. I don’t think I could have had a better experience for my first time – it was so intimate and perfect.’
Two days later, she went home but all three of them were constantly texting and wanted her to come back.
‘I asked if they had been serious and they said they were 100% up for me moving in,’ she continued. ‘A month later that’s just what I did.
‘This was my first ever relationship, I was moving in after meeting them once, and being invited straight into a shared bedroom – it was a huge adjustment.
‘It did feel weird at times, but I think anyone’s first relationship does, and at the same time, somehow it just worked.’
While the “triad” enjoy a healthy love life, Gabrielle is conscious of outsiders ridiculing their relationship and making out it is purely sexual.
‘I’ve never had anyone say anything negative to my face, but you can see it in their faces as soon as they find out,” she said.
‘People tend to sexualise it and ask a lot of invasive questions that they would not ask anyone else.
“They ask how it works and whether we are happy – like they have a right to know.
‘But with any relationship there’s problems and the only difference is we have one extra person.
‘An extra person requires extra passion, extra patience and extra compassion – of course, we have ups and downs.’
Despite her love for Megan and Jacob, several months ago, Gabrielle decided to move to a small apartment nearby to get some independence.
She said. ‘I was so young when I moved out here that I hadn’t really seen very much of life.
‘But we’re coming up for three years as a triad now and we’re completely solid.
‘My family know how happy I am now and they’ve come to accept our relationship.’
Looking to the future, Gabrielle is keen at some point to start a family and although they can’t legally marry, they would like to have a ceremony.
Gabrielle says she is ‘monogamous with two partners’ but is open to the idea of opening up their relationship.
‘It’s not 100 per cent a closed relationship and if someone ever wants to do that we’ll sit down and discuss it, but it’s definitely not something any of us could, or would, do on a whim,’ she said.
Meanwhile, Jacob is keen to extol the virtues of polyamory – where people enjoy intimate relationships with more than one partner.
He said: ‘Being poly is an amazing emotional challenge and, like everything else difficult, it’s incredibly rewarding when it works out.
‘You’ve just got to keep working on this incredible, beautiful ride.
‘I definitely get more of a reaction from people about the age gap than being poly, though.
“When people hear I have two girlfriends they always go, “Well done” but when they hear about the age gap they imply it’s not ok, as if I am cradle snatching.
‘It’s very demeaning, as Gabrielle is smart, brilliant and intelligent – she doesn’t need saving. Give her some credit, please.’
Megan, who has been in a relationship with Jacob for 11 years, explained that while the couple experimented with dating other women, Gabby was the first to come into their relationship to form a triad.
She said: ‘I don’t share our relationship status with that many people so I can’t speak for what other people think about us all too much.
‘Jacob and I are almost 15 years apart but people don’t have an issue with the age or the polyamory separately – they seem shocked by the whole package.
‘Although I didn’t lose my virginity to Jacob I guess you could say in a way, we all lost our throuple virginity together.’
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source https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/18/woman-flew-500-miles-lose-virginity-couple-now-polyamorous-relationship-11174120/
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